Relationships Need The Occasional Spicing Up
By Teeja Hivsbob
So you have been in a relationship for the past few years. You really love your partner. But the initial magic seems to be gone.
Welcome to the mature relationships club. There are many people in that club. But what does one do to get out of the boredom that defines the membership of this club. There are many answers, and many of them are really bad.
Breaking the relationship, looking for love elsewhere, just tuning off, are a few of the negative outcomes of membership to this club. What I recommend is that couples look for positive ways to go about rekindling their relationship.
First, try to think of what really made you happy about your partner, once upon a time. Surely there are going to be a bunch of things on that list otherwise you would not have been a couple in the first place. So, think about those positives. Think about that made you tick as a couple. Think about what got you interested if not excited in the initial courtship period.
Now try to see what you would have to do to get into that same mental state again. Some people would try role-play. Others would take a cruise. Still others would jointly participate in some activity or project. These are all good ideas. Ultimately, the idea is to get the spice back into the relationship.
Successful relationships are built upon the glue of continued interest in the partner and that is something that should never end.
Now let us look at the physical relationship end of this spectrum. Once you have done all that is to do, over and over again, can there be any fun left? Or is it now a chore, especially for the woman?
It is tough and very uncomfortable to try and answer that question. It is a matter of trying to figure out what makes one tick sexually. I think I would like to take this bull by its horn and suggest that this aspect of a relationship needs some re-kindling and spicing up too.
What exactly am I recommending? To begin with, I think we need to take the process of spicing up seriously and devote time and energy to it. Second, we need to be open to new ideas. If it were just the old ideas that we would keep digging up, there would be no new territories to explore.
I am told by several couples that watching adult videos together can be a fun experience for both partners and can also act as a catalyst to one’s own physical relationship. Try it out. It just might work for you.
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