Good Women, Bad Women and Relationships
By Terry Leslie
Not all women are created equal. There are plenty of women who will treat you well and do their best, even when it isn’t perfect, to be a good woman for you. Yet there are also plenty of women who are out to get what’s theirs and aren’t all that concerned with whether they negatively affect someone else’s life. They are users and they are easy to spot. Whether you have business transaction with them that highlights their inability to tell the truth or you have a personal encounter with them that showcases their selfish attitude, women that aren’t worth your time are out there and they are on the prowl.
So how do you protect yourself from a woman that is less than genuine but plays it on so strong? Start by noticing when she contradicts herself. When women lie and are using their body or their affection to get something from you, they often can’t keep the lies straight in their head and they will readily contradict themselves right in front of you. If at first you’re not sure whether she is simply referring to two different scenarios or presenting two totally different facts, just take a mental note of it and move on. Calling her attention to it too early will only help her hide it more. However, if she is chronically able to contradict herself and then tries to cover it up then you can pretty much either call her on it or let her know that is she wants to be in this deal she needs to be honest.
Women who are too sexually promiscuous are likely to be a load of trouble that they are simply not worth. Those in the sex industry are for the most part, looking for something beyond just a good time. Some want to be saved and others want to destroy the happiness and goodness in the lives around them.
Jealous women, women who use drugs like candy or who drink heavily and regularly are generally headed in a direction of complete self destruction. Any woman who wants to control your behavior from the start, who uses violence to express herself, or who can’t stand the fact that some woman you don’t even know smiled when she walked by isn’t very secure in herself and isn’t likely to offer a very secure relationship. Women who are particularly jealous of other women or who chronically suspect that you are cheating are most likely not all that faithful themselves or are likely to become completely obsessive in their behavior toward you. That isn’t very healthy and it can ruin any good relationship.
It is important not to judge too quickly and to at least try to work out differences with women that you really like and who might offer a good chance of a strong and healthy relationship. You can’t always judge correctly right off the bat. And people are chronically changing so sometimes a simple conversation with an honest expression of your needs can ultimately bring something to her attention that she is unaware of. But at the same time if she is voicing her dedication to change and hasn’t changed anything, you can assume that this is how she is going to be until she is devoted to changing for the better. Why hang around and be her victim until then.
People fight. In this day and age we tend to take a fight as a sign of a break up. It doesn’t have to mean that. However, if a fight becomes unhealthy, or unhealthy behaviors (especially self destructive behaviors like self starvation, cutting, or drinking and drugs) follow the arguments then it is probably time to exit the relationship. While there are some cases where external factors are partially at fault, unless someone wants to get help for themselves, then they aren’t going to change and get help for you.
Learning to recognize a woman’s ability to nurture or her ability to deal reasonably in the world versus her ability to manipulate and lie her way into your life or your checking account is not as difficult as it seems. No matter how attractive she might be, if she is sending out the wrong vibes, then you really should listen to those instincts. Those vibes are there for a reason.
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