Nice Guys Can Get Laid
By Buddy Franklin
Being a nice guy can sometimes be associated with negative personality traits in men, and it is unfair! There is nothing wrong with being a decent human being and no guy should ever allow himself to feel embarrassed or abnormal because he is a good person. It is also true however, that many nice guys have trouble in dating and relationships. Though guys may think this is because they are being nice there are many other factors that account for why perfectly good guys may have trouble dating women.
The real trouble with a nice guy is when he dates and decides to become even nicer to a woman who interests him. You might need to fix your nice guy behavior if any of the following patterns apply:
Doormat Behavior
You allow women you like to make all the decisions while you just agree with whatever she says. This is a problem because the woman is carrying all the weight of the relationship, not only have you given her all the power (which should be yours) you also gave her all the responsibility. Women do not want to have to think for a man and by being nice, you are not encouraging a woman to get closer to you, you just made it easier for her to walk away.
Needy Behavior
Nice guys just cannot seem to let a woman go, when she leaves the house they call several times just to see where she is and with whom. The problem with this type of behavior is the constant need for attention can quickly become draining, leaving a woman no energy to date or have sex with you! To fix needy guy behavior you need to get off the phone and give a woman some space. In fact, you should be the one receiving the calls, if you learn how to talk with a woman on the phone you will actually have her anxious to receive your phone calls.
Predictable Behavior
You get up, you brush your teeth, you shower, you go to work, you come home, you eat dinner, you call your girlfriend at the same time every night and once a week you go out with her. Do you notice a pattern here? I almost feel asleep just writing it! Relationships are meant to be stable but they can easily fall into a routine, a long boring routine. Being spontaneous and not always having the same routine are great ways for nice guys to just have fun with a girl they like and keep her wanting to stick around longer.
Show Feminine Behavior
Nice guys sometimes think that the way to a woman’s heart is by acting more sensitive and female themselves. Watching romantic comedies with women, going shopping with them and becoming their best “gal pal” is not going to get you sex. These actions are only going to get you a permanent position as her new best friend. If you truly want to make the relationship work, alpha male behaviors allow a woman to see you as strong leader and provider that she can rely on. With an alpha male there is an almost animalistic attraction women know they are not in control, which is thrilling and exciting, making them a little unsure and keeping them guessing.
Nervous Behaviors
If you cannot even get up the nerve to walk up to a woman, sex and dating is not going to happen. Guys who come off as nervous are hard to get close too. They struggle to speak and women often have to try to decipher what they are saying as their nerves often affect their voices and leave them talking funny. The best way to overcome nerves around women is to realize that there is nothing to fear. If a woman rejects you, move on to the next one. In actuality, it is the nervous actions of the nice guy that leave him single not that fact he is nice.
Obsessive Behaviors
Nice guys are in no way, stalking or making a woman fear for her safety, but they often lay out their feelings for a woman too soon. Some nice guys can shake off their nerves to get a woman interested in dating them. Then they blow everything by telling her on the first or second date that they are in love and want to get married! You have to be able to know when to speak and when to shut up. Exposing all your feelings too soon will just leave you feeling silly and without a follow up date.
About The Author
Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Nice Guys , Nice Guy Around Women , Do Nice Guys Finish Last
