Im Having Trouble Dealing With Break Up
By Samantha Powers
As I have told so many, you have two ways to go about dealing with break up.
First, and you are going to say “WHAT??” but its true the first thing you must do is let it tear you apart. However you feel and deal with the pain, experience it, feel it, scream, shout and cry, get it out of your system.
Secondly, is to overcome the breakup and become a stronger person because of it. You know I have always told myself, my friends and my children the following:
whatever does not kill you only makes your stronger
but keep in mind this all depends on your attitude and your decision you make on how you will be dealing with the break up.
I know you feel as if this is the most devastating turmoil and journey that you have ever gone through but you do not have to let it destroy you. You will become a survivor and the turning point from pain to strength is when you find the strength within you and you make the decision to be a survivor. You have to find the ability to decide that what you are dealing with and feeling is NOT going to define who you are.
When a marriage ends in divorce or any type of relationship ends it is very difficult. If the cause of the split was due to someones infidelity or an affair then along with the pain of the violation of trust comes some self-esteem issues with it, if you are struggling with self-esteem issues please seek out some counseling to help you get through it.
The holds true if you were involved in any type of abuse, it could be physical abuse or emotional abuse, please, please, please seek help and advise and support to help you deal with the long term journey ahead. Dealing with a break up for any reason can cause long-term problems especially if they are not dealt with properly and soon.
Make a promise to yourself while you are dealing with all the emotions of a break up that when you accept the journey, the pain and the hurt and you work through them you are going to come out the other side of this break up a winner, a stronger individual with a positive focus and positive goals to achieve for YOU, not anyone else. Try to not let it consume you and know that you do have to move on, there is a reason for every door that closes in our lives, and I know right now you do not see it, but soon you will.
Learn that there is life after this relationship and be excited about what is in store for you and your new life ahead. You will be a new you soon and will be ready one day to love again, a wonderful love one that makes this hurt all worth while, but you must move through the stages and learn to grow and love you again.
Decide to THRIVE, to be ALIVE know that so many wonderful new journeys are ahead of you and prepare yourself for that journey. This time is your time to focus on you and only you. Wake up each morning with a new goal for yourself, a new focus. Remember that the stronger you become and the more you believe that each day is a new beginning, a gift, and when you get to this point you will know that you no longer will have anymore problems dealing with the break up.
A nasty breakup does not have to be the end of you. Oh no just the opposite is true indeed, you do not see it now but you will, this is not the end of you, it is the beginning of a new you, a new beginning. Its not the breaking up of your life it is ONLY the beginning bricks that are being laid in a new foundation of your life. Build this new foundation from the ruins of a tough breakup and I can promise you, you will find the light at the end of the tunnel and will no longer have any more problems dealing with the break up in your future.
It all begins with you.
About The Author
Samantha Powers is an expert in relationship help and is CEO of Is Love Lost . Samantha has expert information to Get Your Ex Back along with Adult Relationship Resources to help you find your way back to love and romance.